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Toddlers and Tiaras’ Natali: Um, why do you still breastfeed your 3.5 year old daughter?

Sometimes pageant moms can be udderly ridiculous…

Only on Toddlers and Tiaras will you meet a mother who says this:

I still breastfeed my 3.5 year old daughter and don't understand why she's shy.

“I decided to enter Natali in pageants because she’s very shy…” explains mom, Holly.

and about twenty minutes later shoots a deadly look at her husband from behind the judges before saying this:

Natali went on stage by herself, this pissed off her mom

“She went on stage by herself, it’s really frustruating because I put a whole lot into it for him to just disregard what I say. I was just wantin’ to scream”

Wait a minute…isn’t that why you entered Natali in pageants to begin with?

I don’t think Natali is shy.  Natali is submissive around her mother.  There’s a difference.  Part of her mother’s identity is the closeness she’s cultivated with Natali, including the decision to continue breastfeeding a three-and-a-half year old child (which deserves a whole other post entirely).

Toddlers & Tiaras Natalie, age 3

Natalie tells her father that she’d like to do her beauty routine without his ‘on-stage’ coaching.

It’s very clear that every time Natali tries something new her mother is the first to question it.  If this continues, Natali will become a nervous child who second guesses herself.  Natali’s mother is afraid of her daughter not needing her.

Thank goodness this girl has a father to protect her:

Michael protects his daughter's independence on Toddlers and Tiaras


“Natali being as independent as she is, makes me very proud. Mom, it makes very nervous. When we step up there if Natali lets me walk on with her, I’ll walk on with her, if she tells me to stay back, no matter what Mama wants, I’m gunna stay back.”

It’s funny too because when Natali is done with her routine you could see the father racing to get to the stage before the mother so he could be the first one to talk to Natali after her solo performance.

He wanted to be sure the first reaction Natali got after doing something brave like going on stage alone for the first time was a positive one and not a psychologically destructive negative one from her mother.

Michael rushes to get Natali first.

Michael scans the crowd while rushing to beat Holly to greet Natalie after her first solo stage routine with positive reinforcement instead of angry scolding.

Mom’s reaction:

“Michael will be going on stage with her for her next routine, and I guess I’ll have to make my instructions a little more clear”

Thank goodness that didn’t happen.

Natali is excited about doing beauty by herself

“I did my beauty all by myself. That makes me very happy!”

My verdict:

Natali is inhibited by a fear of her mother’s reaction.  It’s clear Natali knows that no matter how well she does something, if she doesn’t do it mom’s way she’ll always be reprimanded as if she failed.

She knew her beauty routine but you could see her hesitate on stage as she tried to follow her mother’s coaching.  I bet if Natalie went to pageants alone with her father she’d perform flawlessly.

I wouldn’t be surprized one bit if Natali weaned herself but continues to nurse because she’s afraid of how her mother might react if she said she didn’t want to anymore.

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2 comments on “Toddlers and Tiaras’ Natali: Um, why do you still breastfeed your 3.5 year old daughter?

  1. Anonymous
    July 11, 2013

    Please spell routine correctly

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